How to meet someone Through the Internet

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How to meet someone Through the Internet
Are you tired of the bar scene?  Do you not have time to go out to meet people?  
“You’ve got mail”.  This is what you want to hear if you’re persuing the singles scene through the internet.  Unconventional; maybe.  Convenient; definitely.  Meeting someone through the internet can be an exciting adventure, but takes alot of time and patience if done correctly.  This process has three steps that need careful thought before you even place your ad, which I will guide you through.  An obvious point to make is that you need a computer with internet access.  First, you’ll need a screen name.  Second, write a personal ad.  Third, choose the singles sites to advertise on and register.  Now you’re ready to place your ad.  Next you will weed through responses, exchange emails, talk on the phone, verify information, confide in 1 to 2 trustworthy people about what you’re doing, and finally, meet in person.  Here are some helful tips for each step.
Screen name: Even if you already have one, I suggest a separate one for this sole purpose.  It needs to be catchy, but gives a little insight about you.  I used “Spicy34F”, and no guys, this is not my bra size.  Spicy described me in a personal way and was eyecatching.  I felt it also important to state age and gender right up front.
Writing your personal ad: You will need a title that will entice someone to read further.  You will see that many of the titles are boring and typical such as “SWF seeking long term relationship” or “Are you the one”.  This was tough for me because I wasn’t looking for a serious relationship or a casual one-night stand.  I needed a title to fit my desire.  I came up with “**Unique Friendship**”.  This described what I was seeking better than anything else and still left room for mystery.  The ad itself should not be too lengthy, or the reader will get bored and go to the next.  Be somewhat specific about yourself and what you’re looking for; while at the same time keep the readers curiosity at its peak by being creative in how you say it.  Here are a couple of examples of my ad to give you some ideas.
Looking for an exceptional male who desires a unique
friendship for fun, frolic and fantasy.  Are you – not looking
for a serious relationship, not wanting to deal with hassles
of courting and making impressions, need a little added spice
to your life?  Who said you can’t have your cake and eat it too!
I’m a DWF in mid 30’s.  I enjoy movies, comedy, dancing,
dining out, traveling, and spicy evenings for two!  I’m a very
confident independent person.  If you aren’t intimidated by
someone who knows what she wants and usually gets her way,
then email me. (I won’t bite).
Now decide if you want to include a photo of yourself with your ad.  There are definite pros and cons to this, so give it careful thought.  I chose not to include my picture.  I consider myself very average and people tend to form their first impression from a photo, if available.  I wanted the first impression to be an incredible curiosity as to who I was based on what my ad read.
Choosing your singles site(s): If you do a search of singles sites it will bring up more than you can imagine.  I did some investigating of about a dozen before I decided which one(s) to use.  Some require extensive information during the registration process and some were hard to get around in and browse the ads.  I ended up choosing three of the better known sites by internet users such as,, and  Take the time to browse some of the sites, see what is required to register, and read some of the ads.  Then make your choice and register.  Now you can place your ad and start your adventure.
Now you get to weed through your responses, and men, I’m sorry to tell you that women get about 50 to your 1.  My recommendation is to delete the replies that don’t interest you immediately or

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