Child Welfare And Domestic Violence

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Child Welfare And Domestic Violence

Child safety and Domestic Violence
It is amazing to me the children are removed from home, where the mothers have been victims of domestic violence. Also that the victim is often left to stay with the batterer. I am a case manager in a Prevention agency in the South Bronx. One of the families that I am working with the mother was physically, emotionally and verbally by her ex-boyfriend. Her ex-boyfriend also sexually molested her two oldest sons. This man put a gun to my client head and made her watch as he fondled her son private parts. She informed that the she was a victim of domestic violence for almost a year, but when the incidents happen with her sons. She finally called the Police and ACS got involved and removed her children. The man was put in jail, but according to the client the Judge on the case felt sorry for the abuser, because of he had such a bad childhood. I wonder if the Judge thought about my client and her children and how this man disrupted their life and the scares that he left behind. Eventually this man went to jail for murder. My client showed me threatening letter that he sent her from jail. She was moved to the Bronx by Victim Services. When the children were returned to the mother two years later with no services in place, only preventive services. This family was not connected to any mental health services, in order to help the family deal with the affect of the domesti violence and sexual abuse. These children had to go through the trauma of watching their mother being abused and being abused themselves. These children also had to deal with the trauma of being removed from the mother and separate from their siblings. The two oldest boy went to Residential Treatment Centers in upstate New York and the other three children went into foster care homes. The fact that these children were removed from the mother failing to protect her children baffles me. How was this mother supposed to protect her children if she couldn’t protect herself. Many would say she could have left him. My client reported that she tried to leave him once, but her found her. It has been almost a year that I have been working with this family and trying to get them the services they need. During this time the client two oldest boys were removed from the home once again for sexually molesting their younger siblings. If this family were provided the proper services from the beginning this incident may have never happen. This women felt that the system had betrayed her, so it was hard for my as the prevention worker to get this client to trust me. As time went by the client realized that I was really trying to help her the client-worker relationship improved. I believe that as provider we must look at the whole picture and try to provide these family with all the services they may need.
This is the reason that I feel that there must be a change within all the agencies involves with victims of domestic violence and their children, charging a victims of domestic violence with failure to protect is blaming the victims, for the domestic abuse they have endured. In a report by The “ Failure to Protect” Working Group it states
( 1999, 3) Domestic Violence advocates have long fought for recognition that domestic violence harms children and families. It also states: “ Increasingly in New York City, abuse and neglect proceeding are brought against battered mothers whose children are removed from them where the only allegation is their children’s “ exposure” to domestic violence. This approach has the unfortunate result of discouraging battered mothers from seeking the services they need to escape domestic violence and often cause further harm to children and families.”
Sometimes people that come in contact with victims of domestic violence, put the blame on the victim, by saying why didn’t they leave. What people need to understand is that it is not easy. Many man are the sole supporter of the family and the women leave she may

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