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"Boys will be boys"
Parents, what messages are you actually sending to your boys? Don't let the old phrase "boys will be boys" counter your judgement on how to discipline your children when they are misbehaving. It is known that while being raised in a household consisting of both boys and girls, boys tend to get away with more than a girl would. Although gender equality is a tough concept in parenting, it is important that each child, no matter the gender, is treated and disciplined under the same rules because it is unfair, confusing, it sets a double standard and ultimately causes additional misbehavior in boys.
Only a fortunate few get to grow up without the dreads of having a big brother, me, I had two. Our "On-Earth" protectors, as my mother would call them. I feel like that always made them feel a little superior, although neither of them would harm a fly for us in my opinion.
Being raised in a house with and older sister and two older brothers, I have seen sexist mistreatment at its finest. My siblings and I are all 2 years apart from one another. Although my parents did a great job at spacing our births apart, they didn't do the best job at giving us all the same treatment based off of our ages. I get it, boys are harder to get a handle on than girls and are harder to control, but that should not be a factor. I remember a particular night when my eldest brother Byron got caught sneaking back into the house after a long night of partying. I woke up around 4 in the morning to a ruckus downstairs. It was the sound of shattering glass hitting the hard bathroom tile. Byron was sloppy drunk and he had broken the glass paintings that were hung on the bathroom walls in attempt to climb inside of the window. I heard my parents immediately go down stairs to check to see what the racket was all about, but I had already known exactly what and who it was. I didn't hear too much commotion, only Byron's room door slam after everybody went back upstairs. Of course Byron was in hot water the next morning, but after a week, it became the laughing stock of my mother and father about how drunk he was. Not to mention, no punishment for Byron. I thought to myself, if I, or my older sister Marie were to pull a stunt like that, it certainly would not be funny, ever. I don't recall my sister Marie ever getting away with anything she did. Matter of fact, if Marie stayed out even a minute past curfew, she was yelled at, got her phone taken, and grounded without discussion. Byron always had a later curfew and an extra 30 minutes to make it home after his curfew before anyone checked up on him. I never understood why Marie would get harshly punished for the same things Byron was allowed to do.
Actions speak louder than words. As a parent, the rules you set aren't what matters. You can set as many rules as you please, and it won't matter unless you're approaching matters correctly when rules are broken. The factor that matters the most is how you are reacting to the child's behavior depending on the sex. If a parent is continuously allowing the behavior of a child to go on, it will continue to happen, the child will take advantage of you, and misbehavior will eventually start to escalate from that point. This issue is widely known. Also, girls are too frequently being treated unfairly in households solely because of gender. Because of this, girls always feel less superior and it can cause a huge amount of confusion and conflict in an household. It is important that parents avoid all decision making that will cause confusion. No more letting Byron break the house rules just because "boys will be boys."
I'm no feminist, but equality is important to me as a young woman. It is undeniably true that girls are far more likely to come to physical harm and are more prone to danger than boys.